... or would you take me home

Oooh we got the tail end of the massive thunderstorm last night, I was so smug to be right after boring the german stupid with my constant, 'god it's warm tonight, don't you think it's warm tonight, look at that it says it's 16 degrees and it's ten o'clock, that's really warm, don't you feel warm?' So I was right to be all super sensitive and unplug the computer.

The dentist yesterday was fun, frozen for 5 hours and now I'm aching, fabulous.

This 63 year old who's having a baby, am I the only person who isn't outraged, I've seen too many famous men becoming fathers at similar or older ages without this incredible fuss made, yes people might raise eyebrows or pass comment but it's not featured on headline news. As someone in her thirties who has always wanted kids but hasn't had any, I have the standard fears that I may not ever be able to have any so I find it awful hard to criticise anyone who does. If you wanted the ideal situation for having children there wouldn't be any born. As someone who has never had enough stability, never had enough money, never had a job that would pay maternity leave I can easily see how putting it off and putting it off can result in missing out completely. Does waiting until you have the money, resources and time mean you could turn out to be a better mother than someone who has a baby at 18? No, probably not but it seems to be an easy mistake to make. The standard advice from most parents seems to be, you just have to do it and then work it all out later, somehow you'll manage, well if that's true for parents in their teens and twenties then it should also be true for someone in their sixties.

Yes there is an argument that she is more likely to die sooner and leave her child without a mother at a relatively young age but there are many professions and lifestyle choices that can mean people have a higher probability of dying and leaving a child parentless but no-one suggests that soldiers shouldn't have children or obese people shouldn't or smokers (those are all I could think of right now but there is probably research suggesting that certain professions result in earlier deaths, you know what I mean). If you play that kind of probability game then it's just crazy and a bit scary. Nature has a hand in things like this by, in general, making unhealthiness a factor in fertility but it's just that, a factor, there is also an optimal child bearing age for women but it's just that, optimal. Women eventually reach a point where their bodies find it impossible to carry a baby, if her body can at her age then good for her. Perhaps, as we all live longer (in general) these days this will become more common, who knows in 20 or 30 years we might not even be raising an eyebrow.